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Hello, everyone. Newbie here. First, it's great there is a body positive community out there like this to support people in their journey!

I've been slim for most of my life, except in my teens when I was powerlifting and eating so much I got 'chunky.' In my late 30's now and I'm slim at ~175-180 lbs, though can tell there's some extra fat on me than before.

I don't know what's happened, but I suddenly feel excited and turned on by this fetish. I've been into femdom humiliation since I was 18, so I suspect a part of it is feeling even more inferior around slim, fit, hot women, which would include my wife.

I find it arousing that my belly and fupa could inhibit ordinary sex, effectively "shrinking" my penis. I've always been into Small Penis Humiliation even though my member is average.

My wife is not a Feeder as far as I know, but she often encourages me to eat whatever I want, whenever -- especially little goodies, i.e., snack bars, protein bars, cookies, sweet loafs, etc. She 'jokes' she's going to make a hog out of me so I can't leave her since I'm currently slim, attractive, and have a successful white collar career.

Anyway, I don't know where to go from here. I'm sure you've all heard it before from us slim people before they take the plunge. I'm open to fattening up but through heavy weight lighting, eating more (not fried greasy foods), etc.

I'd love to lose penis length due to this. But now sure how far I'd have to take it to see my fupa take a few inches away from me. Interestingly, I already have a plump fupa that's never gone away since my teens!

I'd appreciate any advice on becoming a 'healthy' piggy and whether there are angles I need to consider before committing.

TL;DR
I'm slim but have a femdom humiliation porn addiction for years now. I love not having a useful penis for my hot, slim and fit wife. I'm suddenly aroused by the thought of becoming a feedee and making healthy gains through heavy lifting and lots of (generally nutritious) eating. Torn on whether this is a fetish I should embrace. But would want to gain enough to see my penis size reduced by a few inches. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Have you discussed this with your wife?

So yeah, talking about this with your wife is probably the play because you're talking about some life altering things and body changes that may affect attract, health, etc. That said, if she's does for it, go for it. Fupa notwithstanding, having a belly so big you can't see your penis unassisted may be right up.your alley.

I have not mentioned that this is a fetish that seems to be increasingly arousing to me. Maybe i's too soon and it'll eventually go away? But I thought the same about femdom and it's only gotten stronger over the years.

I've mentioned to her that I want to 'bulk' up and add more muscle mass and will eat more as I am tired of fasts and being too slim. I have not mentioned that I'm okay that the bulking includes fat as well.

Yet she's always so sweet and encouraging about eating sweets. Not junk food per se, but wholesome cookies, ice cream and pastries from Whole Foods we typically have in the pantry. It may not be garbage food, but it is very caloric and as added to my BMI.

Any tips on talking points?

I should be clear that I do not have a desire to be morbidly obese, immobile, or any way that is detrimental to health. I'm thinking more of a strength athlete/power lifter type, who is in good metabolic health but has a belly and a FUPA that has swallowed at least half of my dick. I'm not sure what weight/mass I'd need to reach that point though is the thing...

So in essence, a former slim guy turned muscular chubby guy with excess stubborn fat around my dick sounds increasingly arousing. I never imagined I'd find this desirable so it's a bit of a mindfuck right now.

You need to sit down and have an honest conversation with her. One of the other site users made a handy break down of how to do this. Give it a look.

loradayton.com/2022/01/26/how-to-have-the-kink-talk-with-your-partner/

Thank you for sharing. This was a good read. I always appreciate in any fetish community the candor about the pros and cons to embracing one’s fetish and emphasizing concern for significant others. So, thank you.

She’s aware that I want to bulk up and understands with that there could be fat gains. I just need to tell her I don’t mind the inevitable fat gains. I don’t want her to be a feeder; who she is now is more than enough to make me rounder.

Any thoughts to my other question on the impact on the public area and how much weight would be needed to engulf a few inches of my penis? I understand everyone is different, but would love to hear opinions and experiences.

Like you said, everyone is different. Some people get fupas at lower weights, and some barely have any at higher weights. That said, generally you get some kind of fupa around 300 - 350.

Personally, my fupa became pretty pronounced and fairly deep (enough to engulf most of me flaccid and some of me erect) after I gained about 100 lbs… but I’m very short plus I was looking to gain fat and not muscle so YMMV.

Not sure I'd be able to provide better directions in the talk than the link you got earlier. Best I can say, is be open and honest. Certain things you'll need to accept the feedback on. It's your body, but you're not the only one that likes to play with your penis(I assume) so her opinion matters. Introducing her to this site or one similar so she can see the big picture may also not be a terrible idea if she's receptive. If she's already on board with fem dom, there are other aspects of this fetish that can lean into that.