alelectro:
I think they're actually quite common, but a many, perhaps most, come from more conservative cultures. I have been immersed in both Latino and Southern cultures, and in both cases, it was clearly more common to have traditional relationships e.g., wife cooking, husband paying the bills.
However, in neither case are the women pushovers. They will "claim" their man and fattening up a husband is a rite of passage I've observed many times. He can hide a wedding ring, but not a ring of fat around his waist. I suppose other women know something's up if he tries to wander off.
You don't have to ask if a girl is a "feeder" in such cultures. Just ask if she loves to cook and would still love you if you got fat. The answers are often yes.
Bigwideland:
So as a fat man with no wife, I would be look at like yeah right your single, mmm sure you are honey…. I never thought of that no wonder I don’t get hit on , d’oh.
alelectro:
Well, I do think that might be the unspoken, perhaps even subconscious, assumption. So most women might tend to be more reserved at first, because, yes, a 30+ year old man with a full paunch walking down the streets of Savannah, Georgia or San Antonio, Texas is likely married with kids. But, it just means you have to make the first move.
My point though was that such relationships don't begin as feedee meeting feeder, but as people seeking a traditional relationship. There's responsibilities in the relationship though. I have met many Latina and Southern feeders, and every one of them looked to their man as a provider and a source of pride. A good job, confidence, intelligence, and an appropriate, but modest, level of swagger seems to go a long way.
I guess what I'm saying is presenting yourself as someone reliable, faithful, honest, and a provider is what attracts feeders in the cultures I've personally experienced.
Even in more egalitarian relationships, you should strive to be a good partner. Every relationship is different, but both parties need to put in the effort.
Doesn't matter how attractive, good in bed, or wealthy you are if you are a terrible partner. Even if you two stay together, you'll be miserable.
